Stamattina sono uscita di casa per mangiare qualcosa dopo ore e ore di digiuno causa depressione causa rottura definitiva con la mia famiglia di origine. E ovviamente la società ha pensato bene di torturarmi un altro po', visto che ancora mi muovevo.
Nel pianerottolo del mio palazzo ho incontrato una tizia con un pallone gigante, molto bello, ma non capivo di che materiale fosse fatto. Allora le ho chiesto "scusa ma che materiale è?" E lei "è un pallone di stoffa per il mio fidanzato".
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Cioè, io ti chiedo informazioni sul pallone e tu mi dai informazioni sul tuo orientamento sessuale??? Poi siamo noi che ostentiamo al gay pride??? Chiaro, quella è l'unica forma di ostentazione mentre l'ossessivo dare per scontato che tutti siamo etero è normale e dovuto.
Sono tutti orgogliosi di far parte di questo club esclusivo, gli etero. Questo piccolo club di deboli paurosi che finalmente si sentono in pace con se stessi quando ne entrano a far parte. E siccome hanno faticato un bel po' per entrarci, allora appena fanno la tessera cominciano a vantarsi di essere "in", e a schernire gli outsiders.
Fate pure, fate. Non sia mai che qualcuno vi tolga i privilegi acquisiti con tanti anni di sforzi e sofferenze, passati a negare la vostra vera natura.
(PS: precisazione: chiaramente qui mi riferisco solo agli etero fondamentalisti, omosessuali repressi, insensibili verso la miriade di discriminazioni nei confronti degli omosessuali; non agli etero, come dire, "veri", che lottano insieme a noi)
ho trovato questo http://provocatoria.tumblr.com/post/499465052/fuckyeahbisexuals-fuckyeahlgbt-via e ho subito pensato a te. che come al solito hai ragione, punto
RispondiElimina(ps: io non vorrei mai che mi regalassero un pallone gonfiato. lo prenderei come un messaggio subliminale)
Ahahahah
RispondiEliminati giuro era veramente enorme... lei orgogliosa del suo regalo... e poi, precisazione: io non sono out coi miei vicini di casa, quindi non c'era nessun vago remoto motivo di specificare l'orientamento... vabbè
ora sono in ufficio e non posso cliccare sul tuo NSFW link... poi ti dico
eeh, se fosse stato un NSFW te l'avrei detto! è che sti tumblr hanno tutti dei nomi altisonanti...
RispondiEliminamagari la vicina aveva pensato: mio dio, lesbica!
diciamole che è per il mio fidanzato, se non mi salta addosso e mi ruba pure il pallone!
ps l'isola di lind qualcosa (tipo lindo e poi boh) a stoccolma, com'è?
Grande il tumblr che mi hai linkato! Bellissimo, grazie... ogni tanto sono tentata di aprirne uno pure io... minimo, aggiornato di rado, un po' come il blog... ma giusto per raccogliere le foto che mi piacciono da qualche parte... e anche le frasi un po' lunghe che non "entrano" in un tweet!
RispondiEliminaEh sì, povera vicina, con questa faccia da lesbica rapace che mi ritrovo...?!?!? Dal pallone però ero molto attratta, sul serio... veramente bello.
Stoccolma: questa isola che dici non la conosco... il nome non somiglia a nessuno dei nomi che conosco! Quindi non saprei... i tuoi poi ci sono andati? Sono contenti? Impressioni???
io te lo consiglio, lo sforzo e la manutenzione sono pari a zero, (io ho fatto 47 post in pochi giorni, ma mi avran preso un minuto l'uno) e come collettore di foto è imbattibile, sembra di curare un piantina
RispondiEliminal'isola è quella di lidingo (ah ah, sembra un mobile ikea), ci vanno a fine maggio. ma il clima ad ottobre com'è? io vorrei farci un salto in quel periodo
Io ci sono stata lo scorso anno ad ottobre. Beh, era discretamente freddo. Non insopportabile, non come in pieno inverno con un metro di neve... ma nemmeno piacevole. Se riesci ad anticipare è molto meglio. Ad Agosto ti posso assicurare che è perfetto!
RispondiEliminaVolevo solo segnalare che questa storiella ha vinto il premio "Special Achievement in Identifying Heteronormativity" ahahhah http://bit.ly/aLSGRl
RispondiEliminami toccherà ringraziare la vicina...
Got here from autostraddle.com and I have a bit of an observation - - do you not think that maybe, just maybe, you are using a bit of a double standard here? Yes, the "for my boyfriend" bit of the girl's answer was completely unnecessary; but had she told you "it's for my girlfriend" would you have reacted in the same -annoyed- way?
RispondiEliminaI mean - - maybe that girl was not trying to show and/or impose her heterosexuality on you; maybe she was just genuinely excited about the baloon, and grateful for your nice, interested question, and offered a bit of unrequired information. I mean, it happens. Had she been gay, I suspect you would have written a completely different post (and one of approval, that is) about her being so open about her sexuality. Or would it have annoyed you regardless?
Of course I am using a double standard and of course if she had said "it's for my girlfriend" I would have been happy about it (maybe not to the point of writing a post though).
RispondiEliminaBut you know, when the Nazi Generals were tried and sentenced after WWII, and at the same time many people who had not killed millions of Jews kept their freedom, nobody complained of double standards. What I mean is, I can only be guilty of using a double standard in balanced conditions; but as soon as YOU discriminate me first, than I am forced to defend myself; it's legitimate.
In short, I am sick of being surrounded by straight people talking openly about their private lives as if anyone gave a damn, and at the same time being surrounded by gay people who are terrified of coming out. So MANY double standards, you see.
I see what you mean about balanced positions and double standards, and do agree to a certain extent. I suppose what I don't quite agree with is the annoyance at "straight people talking openly as if anyone gave a damn," which made you perceive a random and harmless comment by a neighbour as an act of heteronormative violence.
RispondiEliminaI do get your point here (it CAN be annoying, plus in general nobody should really care about other people's bed-related activities) but perhaps using double standards and/or being annoyed is not always the most productive defense mechanism. I for one would love to find out whether your neighbour was even aware that she was angering you this much... I find that -very frequently- people need to be (patiently) educated* on LGBTQ equality issues, because they just don't see them, or haven't been told / taught how to see them, etc.
(*which I suspect is your / my / our / everybody's role out there, really)
Well, I suppose you are right and it's hard to disagree with what you say. However, it's not so easy to "implement" the theory and always be as patient and educational as we should be! We are human just like anyone else, and we should not be expected to sort of "rise" above the others and show our superior wisdom on a regular basis. I mean, some of us might be wiser than others, but being gay / queer should not create expectations of wiser behaviour as compared to the straight population, though sometimes it does! Like all the talks about the fact that we should be perfect parents if we want adoption rights... AS IF anyone made similar demands of straight parents!
RispondiEliminaAs for myself, I am usually quite patient, but since I no longer talk to my parents and have been subject to heavy heteronormativity in my various workplaces in the last couple of years, I admit to have lost some of the patience I used to have.
Unfortunately, sometimes in history you need to become angry in order to get some rights, because no one is listening and they'll assume you're actually doing alright if you don't raise your voice! I mean, do you have the slightest idea where I live??? Maybe you should come and live here for a few years before telling me I should be patient....
Anyhow, nice meeting you! Have I seen you on Autostraddle before?
ah well, I lived in y/our country on and off for a good two decades. I actively practice patience as a strategy, but sometimes watching the news coming from down there I get annoyed too. So I guess for you to live there everyday must be a pain in the ass.
RispondiEliminaAnyway I had a look around your website and I forgot to write that you should add Iceland to the map of places which effectively legalised same-sex marriages. A couple of weeks ago the country's gay female prime minister got married - Iceland is rarely part of international meetings, but I'd love to imagine an international one where dear Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir shows up with her wife.
I guess the more one moves to the geographical North, the better things get. Also, it probably helps that up here the Catholic Church has little to no influence. Either way: a new country to add!
Yes, it IS a pain in the ass and as you maybe know having read the blog I am planning to move very soon, like, as soon as my employers kick me out which is going to happen in a short time. Because I don't give a fuck anymore about working for them in that environment and in this country. Thanks very much for the money and good luck in this hell.
RispondiEliminaThe map comes from Wikipedia and actually it is updated. Another little dark blue state. The seventh. OMG I am SO looking forward to see her wife at some public gathering!!! As you say, we're going to need to look for it as Iceland does not take part in many international meetings, but still. I want to see the faces of the other prime ministers, the faces of their wives, I want to read the newspapers!!!
The North and the Catholic Church are not completely separate factors as the Protestant Reform spread mainly in the North of Europe: it's been dominating in the Scandinavian countries and England but also a huge presence in Germany and Switzerland, and also Benelux and France (although in France there were many persecutions and in Benelux they tended to concentrate in the Netherlands and in the Flemish area).
I feel sorry that you had to live in Italy; at least I hope it was not Rome or some other particularly terrible place. I guess you learned Italian, then?